Are you motivated?

Sufferers, with social anxiety, are tend to lose motivation for life.
Because they feel anxiety through normal day activities.
People start to lose hope and motivation.
It's just too easy to say, no and just hide, and avoid every thing what makes you afraid and nervous.
Maybe it's not only motivation, maybe it's the fact that we aren't strict enough to ourselfes. We should just tell ourself that we should not give up too fast.
But that's easier said than done..
But if you really want to change your social anxiety lifestyle to a better life.
You should realise that giving up, isn't the way.

Feeling self concious

People with social anxiety, feel really self concious when they are around people.
It's so hard to give a good body language, when you feel so much anxiety within all these thoughts of people judging you.
You don't know where to look at, you stutter, you sweat, you blush, you shake and you don't know what to say.. Because you are afraid of saying something stupid and making a fool out of yourself.
I remind all these times when I was cycling and people were walking by. And i felt so self concious so that my face got tensed and i felt like i was looking like a freak.
Or the times that I'm in the car, waiting at the traffic lights, people looking beside my car, looking at me... I was looking straight to an object so that I could focus on that. And that's the trick.
Just focus on an object or something which doesn't bring you any anxiety.
And try to forget all the people around you.
Or maybe this works for you, try to imagine that you are.. just sitting at home, alone in your room, while youre sitting in a bar.
Or a funny one.. imagine that everyone around you is naked, and everyone is just dumb lol (no offence), you wont feel judged, because dumb people aren't smart enough to judge.. hehe.
But still there isn't a clear solvation, i am still looking for that answer.
like we all do.

But on my blog, i post lots of positive threads, so hope you like (:

I'll keep you updated.

Saskia.

A message from a girl with social anxiety. HOPE.

A message from a girl ith social phobia
I'm a girl with social phobia.
I really was insecure about myself, and couldnt accept myself.
But now i know the reason why that was going on all the time.
My life wasn't perfect, I could compare myself to other's all day long.
I wasn't comfortable and relaxed around people, i was feeling judged, and not safe around people.
I'm really awkard, nervous and clumsy around people and i felt like i was making a fool of myself.
But people who really love me, wouldn't ever even think into that direction, they will take that the way it is, and they won't EVER... judge me on that.
Stupid people, whatever i should call those selfish people.. Would actually judge you on that, and are you worth to feel so over-think-able because of these sad silly's?
No. So just relax, and never lose hope that you will somehow feel relaxed around people someday.
And NEVER.. EVER.. blame yourself on the situation you got into because of social anxiety, you can't help that you feel unsafe around people, but one thing you should realise, is real people wouldn't judge you. And that is what you should believe.
And that day, that beautiful recovery, is coming your way.
It's not that difficult, it's true when you start to tell yourself all this.
i will write more messages on this website, to help everyone with social anxiety.
Because it's such a misery to be so unsure and to feel anxiety day and night.

I can believe this day by day more, and i will keep writing, because it helps myself, and i hope it helps you.

Much love,

Saskia Bloem. from the netherlands.